Thursday 9 May 2019

I’ve Spent Decades Talking to Parents About Vaccines. It’s Time for a Change.

https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2019/05/pediatrician-sean-oleary-talk-to-parents-vaccines-mutual-decision-making/

We talked to a pediatrician about what it’s like to confront vaccine-hesitant parents. Here’s his advice.

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The United States is in the midst of a record-setting measles outbreak. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more than 760 individuals across 23 states have contracted measles this year—the “greatest number of cases reported in the US since 1994 and since measles was declared eliminated in 2000.” In light of this national health crisis, Mother Jones spoke with Sean O’Leary, a Colorado-based doctor specializing in pediatric infectious disease, who was, as he says, “on the front lines” of conversations with parents about vaccines as a former primary care pediatrician beginning in 1999. He has also conducted research in identifying and addressing barriers to vaccination.
Here O’Leary tells us, in his own words, about his experiences: how he’s seen parents in recent years come to expect to collaborate with doctors on their children’s medical care and how that practice may lead to fewer vaccinations. What he’s talking about is known as “shared decision making,” and research shows that asking open-ended questions like, What do you think about Johnnys shots today?” is less effective in getting parents to vaccinate their children than the “presumptive approach,” in which the language used assumes the child will be vaccinated: Johnny has some shots today.” While it’s not totally clear how big of a role provider-parent interactions play in vaccination rates across the country, O’Leary posits that almost every doctor currently deals with parents who expect to weigh in and collaborate on their child’s care. 
As O’Leary explains to Mother Jones, he’s experienced the difference in the two approaches first hand—and he knows how these conversations can be stressful, and even confrontational. But, he says, they’re crucial
When I was first starting in general pediatric practice, there was a day I was going to see a four- or five-year-old child. It was my first time seeing him. But when I looked through his chart, I didn’t see any vaccines.
I thought, “Well, that’s weird. They must just not have the record.” When I went into the room—and I remember the guy well—there was this dad. He was an engineer. I went through the regular visit with him and then I said, “Oh, you know, I didn’t find any vaccines in here. Do you have a copy of the shot records?”
He said, “Oh, no, we don’t vaccinate.” And he brought out this notebook with Excel spreadsheets. He had graph paper with his handwriting. And he had done, essentially, his own analysis of a lot of the different vaccines.
He tried to convince me of why vaccines didn’t work and why they were a bad idea. And I was just completely taken aback. I had been trained in medical school and residency about the benefits of vaccines and I knew that these recommendations came from people who devoted their lives to studying these things, using the scientific method.
I came out of there shaking, I was so angry. 
That was the first example [of an instance where I encountered a parent denying the science of vaccines]. With time, I certainly mellowed in my approach. And I came to recognize that there’s a spectrum of people around vaccines. The vast majority of parents are accepting of vaccines—you just say, “It’s time for the shots,” and they get them. Then there’s a percentage of people that just have questions. And then, there are these rabid anti-vaccination parents like this guy.

In my practice, with the infant series of vaccines, we took a “presumptive” approach all along: They would come in and it would go without saying that it’s a 2-4-6 month visit [per the recommended screening and assessment schedule for newborns]. Then the nurse would come in and do your shots. And I think that’s how a lot of practices worked. We didn’t even think about it back then.
I started medical school in 1992, and then a residency in 1996. And then went into general pediatric practice in 1999. It was an era when the internet was becoming more and more a tool for health information. In the early 2000s, that’s when I started to see [misinformation]. It was not just about vaccines, but about whatever. People would print stuff that they had found on the internet.
Once social media platforms became more commonly used, it just really fueled that spread of misinformation. It was also around the time that adolescent vaccines were coming into routine use—Tdap, the meningococcal vaccine, and then the HPV vaccine. And some of that is maybe coincidental, and some of it is also potentially related. But that’s where you had to mention it to the parents and to the adolescent: “There are these shots we’re going to be doing today.” And that’s where I first recognized as a clinician, I’m not going to ask about this, I’m just going to say it because I get less resistance when I do that.
The “presumptive” approach is something I think a lot of people have already been doing, but for those that aren’t, we now have evidence that it is effective.Shared decision making” is really intended for preference-sensitive decisions—places where there’s no clear medical treatment, no clear correct medical decision. For example, in making a decision between open heart surgery or using a catheter. But where there’s a clear medical indication for an intervention, that’s not really an appropriate place for shared decision making. And vaccines fit squarely in that space. The benefits of vaccines greatly outweigh the risks and they’re in the best interest of the child.

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For doctors, talks with hesitant parents are difficult conversations. We found in a study in 2011 that when pediatricians do encounter parents with questions about vaccines, about half of them report spending more than 10 minutes [explaining the science]. The average “well-child” visit is about 18 minutes long in the US, so if we’re spending more than half the time talking about what is really the most evidence-based thing we do in pediatrics, that’s a real problem. And as a pediatrician, this is a fairly common occurrence. There is no debate in the scientific community about whether or not the benefits of vaccines outweigh the risks. And so when you’re having to spend all this time explaining something that should be just a complete no-brainer, it can be very frustrating.
And the other big part of this is, we’re not really trained very well in how to how to navigate these conversations. So you end up in these sometimes confrontational or argumentative situations. At the end of the day, a lot of the parents agree to get vaccinated, but a lot of them still don’t.
So how do you inform individual patients about vaccines? In the past, it’s been based on what some people have called the “information deficit model”—you just provide the facts and assume that human decision making is rational. And once you’ve provided the facts, people will make the right decision. But it clearly much more complicated than that.
The work I’ve been doing is around the use of another technique called “motivational interviewing.” The core concept of motivational interviewing is patients make the decision, patients do the health behavior change, because of the patients’ own internal motivations, not the doctor’s motivations. The techniques that we’re focusing on are asking open-ended questions, using affirmations, using reflection, asking permission to share, and then offering autonomy support. Research shows this approach can be effective.
In many cases in medicine and in pediatric medicine, shared decision making is a very appropriate approach. And I think parents should consider that. But vaccines are really not one of those situations. The science behind the vaccination schedule is very clear. The best thing parents can do is vaccinate their child according to the recommended schedule.
By the way, I only saw that family [from 1999] a few more times clinically, but a few years after that, I saw the father at a street festival in Fort Collins. He was in front of a placard where he was touting 9/11 denialist conspiracy theories. 
This has been condensed and edited for clarity.

Friday 3 May 2019

12 Parenting Styles (The Good, Bad and Sadly the Ugly)

https://dinnertablemba.com/parenting-styles/
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There are many types of parenting styles, although you may not be familiar with all the official names.
The types of parenting styles, essentially, describe the way that parents react and respond to their kids.
It’s important to keep in mind that partners may have different types of parenting styles when dealing with their kids and that, just because your partner’s approach is different, it’s not necessarily wrong.
We have laid out here the 12 different types of parenting for you to consider.
Which one sounds most like you?
And is that the style of parenting you want for your kids?

Positive Parenting

This is a parenting style that you may be unfamiliar with.
The philosophy is based on the work of Viennese psychiatrists, Alfred Adler and Rudoph Dreikurs.
This type of parenting is focused on developing a strong relationship between the parent and child based on communication and respect.
Instead of just telling your kids what needs to be done, Positive Parenting emphasizes the importance of telling them “why.”
Positive parenting doesn’t mean that you have to be a pushover, though.
Parents layout rules and consequences, discuss them often and follow through on what they say.
They listen actively to what their kids are saying to better understand them and clear up any miscommunication and they focus on helping kids develop self-discipline rather than asking them to obey orders based on fear of punishment.
If you’re looking for some guidance, we highly recommend watching Amy McCready’s webinar on Positive Parenting (click here to watch).
In this brief webinar, she reviews how to get kids to listen without nagging, reminding, or yelling (can I get a hallelujah?).

Attachment Parenting

The name for this parenting style was coined by none other than Dr. Sears.
According to WebMD,
Attachment parenting focuses on the nurturing connection that parents can develop with their children.
That nurturing connection is viewed as the ideal way to raise secure, independent, and empathetic children.”
Attachment Parenting International is an educational association for attachment parenting. The organization identifies eight principles for attachment parenting:
  • Prepare for pregnancy, birth and parenting by eliminating any negative thoughts or feelings
  • Develop a secure attachment through breastfeeding
  • Respond to all behavior, even tantrums, with sensitivity, as they’re just the child’s way of communicating
  • Maximum skin-to-skin time, which could include joint baths or baby-wearing
  • Co-sleeping as a means of feeding and soothing the child in the night
  • Providing constant, loving care, which means the nearly constant presence of a parent, including no more than 20 hours per week of childcare for kids under 30 months
  • Positive discipline by redirecting or distracting kids and trying to understand what negative behavior is communicating
  • A support network to create balance in personal and family life to prevent burnout

Unconditional Parenting

This parenting style means accepting and supporting the child and showing unconditional love, no matter how he or she behaves or what he or she says.
The term Unconditional Parenting was coined by author Alfie Kohn.
According to Alfie, there are ten principles for Unconditional Parenting:
  1. Think about what you’re asking – Could it be how you made your request that your child is acting out? Are you trying to trick your child into doing what you want?
  2. Put the relationship with your kids before the need to be right – The idea is that your child feels safe, secure and loved enough to tell you why she did something wrong.
  3. Make your child feel loved unconditionally, even when they screw up – This principle contends that positive attention doesn’t stop, which means positive reinforcement (which only comes when they’re good) would have to go away, as that could make them dependent on our approval to be reminded that they’re good.
  4. Imagine how your child sees things – From a child’s point of view, we are often interfering in what looks fun when we tell them no. The more you see the world from their perspective, the better you will parent, according to this principle.
  5. Be authentic – Remind your child that you’re only human and apologize to your child periodically (you’ll find a reason).
  6. Be an active listener – Listen, look at a situation from the child’s perspective and respond appropriately.
  7. Assume the best – Assume that your child has the best possible motive that is consistent with the facts. We don’t always know why kids do things, so don’t assume the worst.
  8. Say yes, whenever possible – Pick your battles and try to avoid saying no constantly. Saying no all the time doesn’t make them better at coping with it.
  9. Be flexible – Kids are different so be prepared to respond differently to different kids and different situations. Yes, predictability is good but don’t be rigid.
  10. Bring kids into the decision-making process – Teach them to make good decisions by letting them make some.
The overarching theme of this parenting style and what makes it different than other styles of parenting is the idea that praise and punishment are both tools for manipulation aimed at controlling our kids with a weapon of love.
Kohn encourages parents to show love unconditionally so that kids learn they are loved for who they are rather than what they do.

Spiritual Parenting

Despite what you might initially think, spiritual parenting isn’t about worshiping a specific God or adhering to a specific religion.
Also referred to as holistic parenting, this type of parenting is helping your child become more and more conscious of what feels right for him.
Instead of feeding your child answers that society tells you are right, you encourage him or her to generate his or her own answers.
It’s about “respecting each child’s individuality and creating the space for each child to develop his or her own beliefs based on his or her unique personality and individual potentials.”
Deepak Chopra says the best way to raise a spiritually conscious child is to be the best example in your own life.

Slow Parenting

Slow parenting is actually a reaction to the stressful rat race that has become childhood, with parents racing their kids from one event to the next and not enjoying enough quality time together.
Here is Honerรฉ’s definition of “slow”: “‘Slow’ in this context does not mean doing everything at a snail’s pace. It means doing everything at the right speed. That implies quality over quantity; real and meaningful human connections; being present and in the moment.”
A few of the basic principles behind this style of parenting are:
  • Making sure there’s enough time on the family schedule for together time, alone time or whatever else is needed that week
  • Very few organized activities, but instead encouraging kids to use their own creativity to entertain themselves
  • Limited television and, instead, encouraging children to spend time outside exploring and playing
  • Encouraging kids to try new things and take calculated risks to better understand their abilities and limits
The basic premise is that you make time in the schedule to enjoy time together as well as prioritize time alone to be creative. Definitely check out his famous Ted Talk with over 2.5 Million Views!

Authoritative Parenting

This parenting style is characterized by high but reasonable demands and high responsiveness.
Authoritative parents are responsive to the child’s emotional needs while having high standards. They set limits and are very consistent in enforcing boundaries.
It is one of four parenting styles developed by developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind.
So while authoritative parents may hold high standards for their kids, they also give their kids the resources and the support they need to be successful.
They listen to their kids and provide warmth and love but also set boundaries and provide fair discipline.
Some of the most common characteristics that you find, with this type of parenting style are:
  • They listen to their kids and encourage them to express opinions
  • They encourage their kids to be independent
  • They set limits, expectations, and consequences for their kids
  • They encourage their kids to discuss options
  • They are consistent with administering fair discipline
These parents tend to be flexible. They let their kids explain if there are extenuating circumstances that have impacted their behavior and adjust their response accordingly.
Parents who use this parenting style want their kids to work independently and use their own reasoning to work through problems.
However, they do hold high expectations for their kids and when rules are broken, they are disciplined in a fair but consistent manner.

Authoritarian Parenting

Though the names are similar, authoritative parenting is not to be confused with the next parenting style: authoritarian parenting.
Like authoritative parenting, this parenting style is characterized by high demands from the parents. However, it also is characterized by low responsiveness, in other words, very little warmth or nurturing.
Rather than teaching kids to be independent and manage their own behaviors, this type of parent is almost entirely focused on adhering to the rules. The authoritarian parent tends to provide feedback in the form of yelling or corporal punishment and rarely rewards positive behaviors.
Some of the common characteristics of this type of parenting are:
  • They are demanding and may even micromanage their kids’ lives
  • They don’t show much warmth and are often cold or aloof
  • They aren’t flexible and there is no room for negotiation
  • They hand out punishments with little or no explanation for why the kids are being punished
  • They no patience for misbehavior and rarely explain to kids why certain behaviors are inappropriate
  • They may shame their kids into behaving
  • They don’t encourage independence because they don’t trust their kids to make good decisions
While boundaries are important, most experts agree that this style of parenting is too punitive and lacks the unconditional love and nurturing that kids need.

Permissive Parenting

This type of parenting takes the complete opposite approach that authoritarian parents take. Permissive parenting has very few rules and expectations for children. While the parents are typically warm and loving towards their kids, they don’t set boundaries or even see their kids as being mature enough to carry out tasks that require self-control.
This type of parent typically will avoid confrontation, so they rarely discipline their kids.
Permissive parents usually leave it up to their kids to figure things out for themselves.
The characteristics that are usually found in permissive parenting include:
  • Encouragement of independent thinking
  • Role equality between parent and child
  • Warm, responsive and caring
  • Manipulation like bribery and praise used to motivate or control kids
  • Focused on harmony in the home
  • Non-restrictive child discipline strategy

Uninvolved Parenting

This parenting style is characterized by low control (so very few demands) and low responsiveness (very little warmth and nurturing).
This parent tends to be distant and disengaged from his or her kids’ lives. They provide for their kids’ physical needs but aren’t providing the emotional support and nurturing kids need to thrive.
Some of the characteristics you see in this parent are:
  • Emotionally distant from the kids
  • Very little, if any, parental supervision
  • Very little warmth or affection is shown to children
  • Have few or no expectations
  • Aren’t involved in their academic lives
  • Too overwhelmed by their own lives to deal with their kids, and may even avoid their kids altogether
Obviously, the degree of involvement in their children’s lives can vary considerably from family to family. Some parents may be almost entirely absent from their kids’ day-to-day lives, whereas others may set up a few boundaries, like implementing curfews.

Helicopter Parenting

helicopter parent is one who “pays extremely close attention to a child’s or children’s experiences and problems, particularly at educational institutions. Helicopter parents are so named because, like helicopters, they hover overhead, overseeing their child’s life.”
Helicopter parents are motivated, at least in part, by their fear of losing their kids. They then react to that fear by being overly protective.
Ann Dunnewold, Ph. D., a licensed psychologist and author of Even June Cleaver Would Forget the Juice Box, calls it “overparenting.”
“It means being involved in a child’s life in a way that is overcontrolling, overprotecting, and over-perfecting, in a way that is in excess of responsible parenting,” Dr. Dunnewold explains.
Helicopter parents are often intervening for their kids, covering up their mistakes and completing basic tasks like school work or job applications. They also have a hard time letting go of their kids and are overly engaged.
Helicopter parents tend to be:
  • Unnecessarily fearful to the point of irrational, which can rub off on kids
  • Indulgent of their kids’ needs and feeling they need to entertain them
  • Overly involved in academic life
  • Fighting kids’ battles for them
While these parents start off with good intentions, this style of parenting backfires.
Kids tend to have decreased confidence and self-esteem, undeveloped coping skills, increased anxiety, decreased life skills and a heightened sense of entitlement.

Narcissistic Parenting

This type of parent is typically seen living vicariously through their kids, using them to live out their own unrealized dreams.
This parent puts their own needs above all else and are even threatened by a child’s growing independence.
According to Psychology Today, “A narcissistic parent can be defined as someone who lives through, is possessive of, and/or engages in marginalizing competition with the offspring.”
In this type of parent-child relationship, the child is rarely loved for just being him- or herself.
Some of the characteristics of narcissistic parenting include:
  • Using or living vicariously through the child
  • Putting a child down so the parent remains superior
  • An inflated sense of entitlement based on superficial, egotistical and material reasons
  • Codependent on their kids to take care of them
  • Jealous or possessive in response to a child’s growing independence
  • Manipulation

Toxic Parenting

This type of parenting refers to parents whose behavior “grossly inflicts emotional damage which contaminates their children’s sense of self.”
This includes parents who abuse their children, whether verbally, physically and/or sexually. It also refers to parents who ignore their children’s emotional and physical needs.

Summary: Types of Parenting Styles

While I think we can agree that many of these parenting styles could fall into the category of bad parenting, I think we can also agree that many have aspects that we would like to carry into our own parenting styles.
For example, you may consider yourself an Authoritative Parent, after reading this article, but you may have agreed with many of the ideas that characterize Slow Parenting. And, as such, you may want to start to include some of those ideas into your own parenting style.
My point is that, excluding the poor parenting styles, you may want to consider drawing on the new, modern parenting philosophies as well as some of the older ones as you decide what type of parenting style is best for your kids.
To recap, here are the 12 different parenting styles:
  • Positive parenting
  • Attachment parenting
  • Unconditional parenting
  • Spiritual parenting
  • Slow parenting
  • Authoritative parenting
  • Authoritarian parenting
  • Permissive parenting
  • Uninvolved parenting
  • Narcissistic parenting
  • Helicopter parenting
  • Toxic parenting
Which parenting style are you?
And are there any ideas you found in other parenting styles that you would like to add to your own home?

Friday 6 July 2018

Are YOUR children as polite as Prince George and Princess Charlotte? Royally-trained etiquette expert reveals the MOST important manners to teach your kids before age 10

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-5915401/Etiquette-expert-Myka-Meier-lists-important-manners-behavior-kids-learn.html
By CARLY STERN

Follow their lead! Princess Charlotte and Prince George have been learning good manners and proper etiquette since they were born รข€” but non-royal children can learn those lessons, too
Follow their lead! Princess Charlotte and Prince George have been learning good manners and proper etiquette since they were born — but non-royal children can learn those lessons, too

Just because your kids haven't been invited for a playdate with Prince George and Princess Charlotte doesn't mean they can't behave like little princes and princesses themselves.
The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge's little ones may not yet be old enough to sit at the grown-ups' table at official dinners — that'll have to wait until they can hold polite conversation like adults for that — but they've certainly been learning good manners since they were babies.
And if George, who turns five this month, and Charlotte, who is three, can practice good etiquette, your kids can, too. But where to start? Etiquette expert Myka Meier, 36, has shared the most important lessons a child should learn by the age of 10, from how to answer a phone to the top rules to follow during a meal.
Well-behaved! DailyMail.com reveals the top 20 lessons in manners and etiquette that a child should learn by the age of 10
Well-behaved! DailyMail.com reveals the top 20 lessons in manners and etiquette that a child should learn by the age of 10
Myka, a dual American and British citizen, trained in London under a former member of The Royal Household of Her Majesty the Queen — and has gone on to to open Beaumont Etiquette to pass on her expertise.
She currently runs The Plaza Hotel Finishing Program, where she teaches people of all ages proper etiquette, with special classes designed for children held in the Eloise Tea Room. She's been flown all over the world to teach royals, celebrities, and other members of the elite (some of whom require that she signs NDAs).
Yet she insists that most of the lessons she imparts are just as useful for kids who aren't visiting palaces and dining at the world's most expensive restaurants.
The expert: Beaumont Etiquette's Myka Meier runs The Plaza Hotel Finishing Program
The expert: Beaumont Etiquette's Myka Meier runs The Plaza Hotel Finishing Program
'As parents, you wish nothing more than to see your child excel in all they do, and the best way to get ahead is to teach them basic dining and social skills while they’re young,' she told DailyMail.com.
'The foundation of etiquette, taught during childhood, is unmatched and considered an investment in your child's future,' she went on. 
'Regardless of personal goals, early childhood etiquette instills basic manners, kindness and respect, social skills, and confidence in children.'
'It's never too early to begin etiquette training,' she added. 'Children such as Prince George and Princess Charlotte begin learning dining etiquette the moment they are able to sit at the dining table.' 
Of course, teaching etiquette is an ongoing process — and some lessons need to be adapted based on a child's behavior. 
'The true meaning of etiquette is always to show respect and kindness to everyone and all living things around you, including people, animals, and the environment,' Myka explained.
An effective way to do that is to learn these 20 things before the age of 10...
1. The correct way to hold cutlery
'Often holding cutlery is one of the biggest mistakes children make in dining,' Myka said. 'When they start eating as babies they use their hands, but by toddlers they are expected to progress to silverware and often have a hard time adjusting.'
The rules are also different in British and American dining. Brits keep their fork in their left hand and knife in their right throughout the meal, and in formal settings will push food onto the back of the fork.
Americans cut with their fork in the left hand and a knife in their right, but move the fork to the right hand to take a bite. They also spear food onto the fork, as opposed to placing it on the back.
2. How to properly use a napkin to wipe your mouth
Kid should be taught quickly that sleeves are for wearing, not for sopping up food or spills. 
3. To never chew with their mouths open
'Children can begin learning table manners as soon as they’re old enough to sit at the table,' said Myka. 
4. How to set the table
'Being able to set a proper dining table goes beyond cutlery placement,' Myka said. She goes into the details in her classes, but parents should at least show children where to place cutlery, napkins, and cups — and can get them to practice by setting the table before family dinners.
5. Not to put elbows on the table
'Putting elbows on the table in western culture is recognized as rude behavior,' says Myka. 'In America and Great Britain, we keep our hands totally under the table until food or drink is served, while in many other countries wrists stay on the table. But no matter what country in the western world, no elbows. 
Why the rule? Well, Myka, said, 'When putting your elbows on the table you break posture and curve your back, leaning over the table. It’s also possible that your elbows knock into something at the table.'
6. To say 'please,' 'thank you,' and 'excuse me' 
'As soon as children have the ability to speak its importance to introduce verbal cues such as please and thank you,' said Myka. 
7. How to show positive body language 
It's one thing to talk to talk, but a kid also has to walk the walk. Saying 'please' an 'thank you' don't go very far when a child is grumbling, and crossing his arms.
8. To never comment on someone's appearance — unless it's to say something nice
Kids have a habit of being embarrassingly honest. If they know that the only comments they should make about someone's looks are positive ones, you'll never hear, 'Daddy, that lady is so ugly!'
On the flip side, positive remarks should be encouraged, and children should be taught how to give a compliment. 
9. Not to point or stare
10. Not to interrupt adults when they are speaking to someone else 
11. How to introduce themselves — and others — properly
Teaching them to say their names and offer a handshake is the first step, but it's important that they learn how to introduce one friend to another, too.
12. Not to call an adult by his or her first name, unless instructed to do so
13. How to write a thank-you letter and why we do it
14. To always knock on a door before opening it
Teaching this to children from an early age can prevent mortifying moments.
'The earlier you start teaching children etiquette, the more it becomes day to day normal behavior to them and is easier to absorb,' said Myka. 'Just as it is easier to learn a language as a child, so it is for any skill set.
15. Why it's important to invite someone to join a group if they are by themselves
Recognizing the needs of others is compassionate and shows good manners — but in the beginning, kids will likely need an adult to point out those who should be invited to join.
16. How to dress and groom themselves for nice outings
17. How to politely answer a phone
According to Myka, children should answer the phone by saying one of the following: 'Hello,' 'Good morning,' 'Good afternoon,' 'Good evening,'  or 'Hello, how may I help you?'  
When the caller asks to speak to someone, a child should then ask who is calling. 
She pointed out that while children used to be taught to introduce themselves when picking up the phone, that is no longer advisable for safety reasons.  
18. To make eye contact when speaking to another person
19. To cover their mouths when coughing or sneezing 
'Parents should definitely lead by example, as children see what their parents are doing they will copy their behavior,' said Myka. 
20. When to use indoor and outdoor voices 
This one should certainly be taught when kids are young, but Myka insists it's never too late to begin teaching a child etiquette.
'As a pre-teen or teen, it’s still a great time for etiquette training,' she said. 'As adolescents begin to develop a sense of self, they are able to comprehend etiquette in a way that is applicable.'